tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23563380.post5629511847842461707..comments2023-10-02T00:28:29.335-07:00Comments on Gay LDS Actor: Shhh...Don't Tell Jonah!Gay LDS Actorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17841236084753512311noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23563380.post-672632406542770872010-08-02T11:30:49.241-07:002010-08-02T11:30:49.241-07:00I think I'd probably make a decent father, but...I think I'd probably make a decent father, but like you, FD, I just don't think it's in my make-up to have kids, and I make an awesome uncle, which I think is more up my alley. When I was younger, there was more of a desire to have kids, but not so much anymore. It's a lot of work and selflessness that I'm not sure I possess. And I think it's a good thing to know that before one has kids. I never say never, either, but I don't think it's in the cards.<br /><br />Jonah and I have discussed (not very seriously) maybe being foster parents of some sort, but again, I don't know that I have it in me to do that.<br /><br />I do appreciate both of you not taking the angle of "Oh, you'd be a great dad." or "They say when it's your own, it completely changes your attitude," etc. Blah, blah, blah.<br /><br />Anyway, it's been great to hear your thoughts on the issue.<br /><br />Oh, and FD, miss you lots. I feel like it's been forever since we talked.Gay LDS Actorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17841236084753512311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23563380.post-86415869507237500892010-08-02T06:16:05.534-07:002010-08-02T06:16:05.534-07:00My husband and I are all of our nephews' and n...My husband and I are all of our nephews' and nieces' "favorite" uncles (especially Göran!). Don't underestimate the importance of being a good uncle.<br /><br />But becoming a foster dad changed my life... A lot of things I once thought were important went out the window, from the moment I first saw our foster son's face and realized that he would be dependent on us. It has been one of the single most powerful and worthwhile things I feel I've ever done or will ever do. That's all I'll say on that count.John Gustav-Wrathallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03557940681381951271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23563380.post-4416745414782880662010-08-02T04:02:03.338-07:002010-08-02T04:02:03.338-07:00I think I've always known that I didn't wa...I think I've always known that I didn't want/couldn't handle kids. When we first got married, my husband and I were in agreement that if we did have kids, we would most likely adopt. For a while, I really wanted to adopt. But the older I get, the less desire I have for children. I realized that my desire to adopt was fueled more by a desire to a humanitarian, caretaker, or some kind of saviour to people in need rather than to be a mother. I feel compelled to be the former and absolutely useless as the latter. I had a great mother and, being the oldest of five kids, I know first-hand just what is required. And I've concluded that I just don't have it within me. And that makes it very difficult to survive in LDS culture and theology, where having children is essential -- or at least <i>desiring</i> to have them. It was something that weighed on me literally since I was a little girl -- because I always knew I didn't want to be a mother -- and the burden of guilt has only subsided since I've created more of a distance between me and the Church. The couple of people I have discussed this with try to "comfort" me by saying that God will understand if I'm not mentally/emotionally/physically capable of having kids in this life, and that I'll be blessed with them in the next. But that to me is probably what it's like for you when people tell you that you'll be straight in the next life. :)<br /><br />When it comes to kids, I've learned to never say never in life. But this is as close as I can get to saying that, I guess. :)The Faithful Dissidenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12540938297858510325noreply@blogger.com